tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post402961165061070325..comments2024-03-26T08:35:24.246-05:00Comments on That man Quilts?: GradesLanehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17961668927812199081noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-8151862509159005972011-05-19T22:19:06.107-05:002011-05-19T22:19:06.107-05:00we start taking privileges when the A falls to a B...we start taking privileges when the A falls to a B and when we see a C there is major trouble and lots of work to do. Right there with you and SOOO ready for school to be out...Andra Gaylehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09834113374465446312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-65682759695617480502011-05-19T07:59:49.530-05:002011-05-19T07:59:49.530-05:00Well said Lane! I have 3 daughters (13, 10 and 8)....Well said Lane! I have 3 daughters (13, 10 and 8). Many days it's a battlefield around here with my 13 year old. It's hard but no one said it would be easy, right? We'll survive and so will they...I was the 13 year old girl once and I did the same things to my parents. What comes around goes around and here it is ;)<br />Hang in there!Sandi Colwellhttp://quiltcabanapatterns.com/blognoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-67792648150408755272011-05-18T21:22:26.963-05:002011-05-18T21:22:26.963-05:00Bravo, Lane. You are doing the right thing, setti...Bravo, Lane. You are doing the right thing, setting those expectations and having consequences. Keep it up. It's pitiful when kids think it's acceptable to just slide by or even fail. I just learned this evening that a nephew will not graduate; the first in our extended family to not graduate HS, and I hope it's the last.Paulettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06181665241824945247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-61066125923920332882011-05-18T20:44:38.336-05:002011-05-18T20:44:38.336-05:00My daughter understood the word consequence at age...My daughter understood the word consequence at age 3! She still thinks about what she is going to do before doing it. Everything we do in life has a consequence, sometimes good, sometimes bad. I told my daughter that it was ok to hate me when she was young - I knew she would thank me later. Thankfully it never got to the "hate" word!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01542918863237046287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-11016340596857899942011-05-18T18:22:35.091-05:002011-05-18T18:22:35.091-05:00You're doing it right, Lane. No need for yelli...You're doing it right, Lane. No need for yelling...just state the rule/expectation and enforce the consequences. I was the big meanie for years and I don't regret one minute of them. The boys turned out ok and functional! So will Sydney. :)Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14082295990536140884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-21393706650210752012011-05-18T18:16:39.916-05:002011-05-18T18:16:39.916-05:00I applaud parents who set reasonable limits and th...I applaud parents who set reasonable limits and then don't cave into the pressure of "but everybody else...". I raised four children who knew that I expected their best effort where school was concerned. I knew it wouldn't be all A's all the time, but neither would they get away with wasting their time and then making excuses about why it was the teacher's fault that they got a poor grade. They all went to college on scholarships--some better than others, but all of them know the meaning of applying themselves and that they will get out of school what they put into it. Sydney will be miles ahead of those who are sliding through school with as little effort as possible. Don't know who will hire them in the real world.Janet O.https://www.blogger.com/profile/05083607398709252597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-29100328856714084672011-05-18T17:06:22.504-05:002011-05-18T17:06:22.504-05:00Right on... you rock... she is sooo fortunate to ...Right on... you rock... she is sooo fortunate to have someone willing to be a parent. Not just a grownup - a parent.Kathleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14265994687551513000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-83546333530617835542011-05-18T16:31:30.425-05:002011-05-18T16:31:30.425-05:00I was raised in a family where A's were expect...I was raised in a family where A's were expected from all four of us children. However, not all four of us were capable of A's in all of the subjects. It was a very unfair expectation placed on each of us children and caused a great deal of poor self esteem in one child in particular. He ended up not graduating from high school. <br /><br />When our son came along we encouraged him to do his personal best. If that was A, B or C work - fine, as long as he was truly putting forth his best effort. We knew what he was capable of, so did he and his teachers. Certain subjects come easier to us than others - we are not all gifted in every area. He usually was capable of A's and B's and an occasional C. <br /><br />We went through what you are going through as far as the excuses, etc. I think every parent experiences that. My son is 28 now and we can finally laugh about those years - but it wasn't funny at the time. So I can feel your pain.<br /><br />He has graduated from a private college with a degree he wanted and has worked hard to pay for most of it himself. He is working in his chosen field and he loves what he is doing - but he did not get straight A's in high school and we did not force that idea on him either.<br /><br />Remember, (unless these have changed):<br />A is Exceptional<br />B is Above average<br />C is AVERAGE<br />D is Below average<br />F is Failing <br /><br />Not every child will be Exceptional 100% of the time.<br /><br />I am not suggesting you wimp out on Sydney - but just something to think about as far as grades go. It always makes me cringe when a teacher expects every one in her class to get A's. Not going to happen - or there is only one gifted student in the class!<br /><br />All in love and concern -One Minnesota Quilterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14324481663679002621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-72300143016107669792011-05-18T15:45:17.519-05:002011-05-18T15:45:17.519-05:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Shayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11032969125788408807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-73116301848870133642011-05-18T15:45:16.949-05:002011-05-18T15:45:16.949-05:00I think you've learned in three short years wh...I think you've learned in three short years what it took me about 16 years of parenting to get straight. No justification of rules and expectations. My favourtie posta of yours are always the ones where you talk about Sydeney's successes and life lessons and your honest view of parenting. <br /><br />And by the way I would have died before I even thought about bringing home anything less than a B. I really dislike the way that school has become less important but getting a high paying job has much more focus.How are you supposed to do one without doing the other?Shayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11032969125788408807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-75893909620920238192011-05-18T14:08:49.113-05:002011-05-18T14:08:49.113-05:00Congratulations! You have been awarded the "...Congratulations! You have been awarded the "Meanest Dad in the World" award. To receive this award you have to be a good parent... not just a parent. <br /><br />You know you've earned this award when your child tells you that you're mean, texts all her friends just how mean you are, and pouts and sulks. <br /><br />You know you're doing the right thing when your daughter argues and complains but she does what she's suppose to do.<br /><br />Some day in the future, you'll be thanked for being the meanest dad in the world....Impera Magnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00889488057400766469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-88381394981878850382011-05-18T13:45:28.355-05:002011-05-18T13:45:28.355-05:00Hi Lane, I've been following your blog for a ...Hi Lane, I've been following your blog for a number of weeks now, and just wanted to thank you! I really have enjoyed your posts, your wisdom, stories, and most of all: your talented quilting! Thanks for being a bright spot on my blog roll & looking forward to "getting to know" each other blog-istically speaking as the months roll on! Cheers :)Birdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08389583383931950446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-68784754972964045772011-05-18T13:33:31.160-05:002011-05-18T13:33:31.160-05:00this too shall pass!!! Famous last words you are t...this too shall pass!!! Famous last words you are thinking I know..what progress!! It is hard when I am sure she might be right, I think parents don't take the time today they need to see what is going on with their kids....you guys are doing so much for Sydney, there will come a day she will be thankful!!Coloradoladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16312809532968928183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-49537265340981830972011-05-18T13:06:51.767-05:002011-05-18T13:06:51.767-05:00Very rarely are the things that are worth it easy....Very rarely are the things that are worth it easy. It is worth it to teach your daughter how to work hard, be responsible and do her best. And good for you for not shouting. Keep at it and pretty soon, you'll have a very mature, responsible, respectful, hard-working young lady on your hands. It will be worth it.<br /><br />xo -EElizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07980461113595763030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-6207318515701671242011-05-18T12:16:45.047-05:002011-05-18T12:16:45.047-05:00My (now) twenty-seven year old stepdaughter hated ...My (now) twenty-seven year old stepdaughter hated having to practice her spelling words twice every day after school, but you know what? She told me just recently that she's happy she learned how to spell and has her little girl learning spelling words every afternoon. Remember: Cod liver oil doesn't taste good, but it's good for you! As a school teacher, I appreciate the fact that you are enforcing consequences to help support the teacher's efforts at school. If a house divided can not stand, then if parents and teachers are not on the same wave length, then it's the child's education and well being that eventually suffers. All adolescents are looking for boundaries and she's a very fortunate young lady to have a caring parent who sets and keeps them.Mary Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01848908751785134160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-24279196073002245792011-05-18T11:53:52.912-05:002011-05-18T11:53:52.912-05:00Lane, as you well know, you are not alone. Every ...Lane, as you well know, you are not alone. Every parent of a teenager hears these same arguments.<br /><br />Good for you for sticking to your consequences. We recently had to tell Chyenne that she would sit in the back row and listen to the concert she was supposed to be singing in because she chose to lie to us. I was so tempted to just ground her to her room, but chose to make attend so she could see what she missed. She HATED that 90 minutes of the day, but she'll never forget it either.<br /><br />She has a dance recital this weekend, and after the previous consequence for lying 2 weeks ago, we haven't heard any lies since then. She really wants to dance on Sunday. My only hope is that she doesn't start lying again at 6:05 AM on Monday...<br /><br />You obviously love her very much, your participation in her life is to be commended... Some day she'll appreciate it.<br /><br />Paul<br />www.OutnumberedQuilter.comPaulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13624140507953560723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-12097467350643143012011-05-18T11:49:26.604-05:002011-05-18T11:49:26.604-05:00You are, by no means, the only parent who demands ...You are, by no means, the only parent who demands good grades. :) And in our family, children don't get their own laptop until their senior year, so nope, not everyone has one. They get to share the family computers until then.Lynettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10424861624240818479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-81219966008124892702011-05-18T11:39:17.585-05:002011-05-18T11:39:17.585-05:00As someone who has 2 in college and one in middle ...As someone who has 2 in college and one in middle school, I feel your pain.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16064129372930669591noreply@blogger.com