tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post4211267084283681923..comments2024-03-26T08:35:24.246-05:00Comments on That man Quilts?: The OCD processLanehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17961668927812199081noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-21500050773755258732010-09-08T19:49:32.012-05:002010-09-08T19:49:32.012-05:00Your strategy actually sounds pretty healthy to me...Your strategy actually sounds pretty healthy to me, not just for you, but for those you care about as well.Vesuviusmamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08447649002367621196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-31796161683367879582010-09-08T13:01:41.513-05:002010-09-08T13:01:41.513-05:00I'm a perfectionist too. I have trouble every ...I'm a perfectionist too. I have trouble every time I wash the bathroom floor cause the trim needs painting. That means that I really have to push myself to wash the floor at all. I get a defeatest attitude. Why wash the floor when the room will never be perfect? I'm working on it. I have one placemat that I did that the binding is bothering me on.Ripping out the stitches would feel good and I decided yesterday I'm going to do just that. Better than me obsessing every time I think of them.Shirleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15778110892578808447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-64740164040429678142010-09-08T07:06:35.550-05:002010-09-08T07:06:35.550-05:00I only allow myself one Obsessively Compulsive act...I only allow myself one Obsessively Compulsive action. My straight quilting pins MUST be in a certain order on all pincushions! Now how bad can that be? The red tomato with only white glass pins and the pin cushipn by the machine only 12 blue one. In my eyes, my reasoning is great. I can account for all my pins at any time and I don't ruin a rotor blade cutting or lose a pin in material only to find it in my finger then bleed all over my material. My obsession is harmless, I don't dwell on it and I've put everything else in this catagory..."Don't sweat the small stuff, and everything is small stuff." I'm happier and if others don't like it, well who cares? Chill out Lane, you're a great guy, enjoy life and your neat family!<br />Love to you.<br />PKPaulinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18032916395238804901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-28260042926123930912010-09-07T21:35:43.243-05:002010-09-07T21:35:43.243-05:00It seems that many of us "quilters" want...It seems that many of us "quilters" want things perfect, even though we know nothing in life is perfect. I know that with your families help you will work this out. I have gone on long walks and cleared my head instead of grumbling. I have to get away from issues sometimes.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01542918863237046287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-61247946696267851942010-09-07T15:56:04.575-05:002010-09-07T15:56:04.575-05:00Well I hope you have a wonderful day, perfect or n...Well I hope you have a wonderful day, perfect or not. <br /><br />I've never handled the stress around me in that way but I can certainly understand the need to grumble at yourself for a few hours.<br /><br />I've just started training to be a counsellor and one of the core conditions is unconditional positive regard. But I can't do it for myself! In fact when discussing it I said "I can't show unconditional positive regard for myself, silly cow!!!!" My tutor had a lot to say about that!Shevvyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16597474715523695213noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-56704205708207127922010-09-07T11:14:07.893-05:002010-09-07T11:14:07.893-05:00Lane, I am totally not OCD but I have taken apart ...Lane, I am totally not OCD but I have taken apart a whole finished purse just to put the handles on another purse and then I HAD to go back and re-finish that first purse. It was just a need I had to fulfill so it was done and done right. So I do understand a little of what you are doing by pulling out all those stitches...twice! Best, Lisaoldbatthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01100643015536283886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-29879187170686441412010-09-07T11:12:28.225-05:002010-09-07T11:12:28.225-05:00As a former type A personality learning to embrace...As a former type A personality learning to embrace and become a type B, I relate to what you are saying. I have learned that it begins with my own attitude - I try to start out each day with this thought: at the end of my life, what will I want to be remembered for? And it definitely isn't for being nit-picky, or "perfect." What has helped me to let go in my quilting has been to start dabbling with art quilts and mixed media. It helps, because there are no rules here, and I find I am able to let myself go and let the fabric and process lead the way. Maybe something to try? In any case, thank you for sharing. I think you will find there are many, many people who relate.Angie Padillahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17557315825455118778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-84439753121220587102010-09-07T10:55:11.914-05:002010-09-07T10:55:11.914-05:00Good post and good insight. Hang in there!Good post and good insight. Hang in there!Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14082295990536140884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-15969589611349439612010-09-07T10:24:22.005-05:002010-09-07T10:24:22.005-05:00I can sure see myself in this post-- the do-overs,...I can sure see myself in this post-- the do-overs, the kicking myself in the back end because of some little stupid thing I said...glad to know I'm not the only one out there.lwhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08731797783816953087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-66501495469370112032010-09-07T10:14:53.089-05:002010-09-07T10:14:53.089-05:00Oh Lane...
I understand issues (got plenty myself...Oh Lane...<br /><br />I understand issues (got plenty myself!!!), but dang it all.... perfect is boring as all get out!<br /><br />I'm glad you are enjoying your fabulously fun and imperfect family! As for the rest, I know you'll do the best you can to deal with what comes! Hang in there!<br /><br />And I loved the part about "it might not have a backing left, but it will be darn near perfect!" Funny!!!<br /><br />~ RondaMomma Made Thishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16693510458953643109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-7176465457179635642010-09-07T09:48:17.737-05:002010-09-07T09:48:17.737-05:00I can see that my comment the other day that finis...I can see that my comment the other day that finished is better than perfect was less than helpful. Sorry about that. I know what you mean about wanting a little control in your life. Life is so messy. Sitting down to a project where I know I have absolute control is something that makes me happy. When I get frustrated with the people around me, I think about this quote:<br />Be not angry that you cannot make others as you wish them to be, since you cannot make yourself as you wish to be. –Thomas à Kempis<br /><br />I have to remind myself of that a lot. It helps me to realize that the only person I have control over is me, and I can't even make me do everything I think I should. How's that for irony?<br /><br />Thanks for sharing your process. It helped me to connect a few dots. I had a quilt top nearly finished and decided that it wasn't quite right, so I'm on the process of pulling it apart to make it right. I've got another top all finished and ready to go, and I'm seriously thinking of pulling it apart too. Both tops are really nice. But they just aren't quite right. the second top requires a TON of unpicking to pull it back to a place where I could begin remaking it, so I might just decide that I can live with it. I'll have to see how I feel after I remake the other top.<br /><br />Hope your day is a good one.<br /><br />xo -EElizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07980461113595763030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-10501692503853362452010-09-07T09:34:39.798-05:002010-09-07T09:34:39.798-05:00It's better the fabric on the quilt be worn th...It's better the fabric on the quilt be worn than your relationship with your family! My mom was OCD and I feel for people that have it. I am only a perfectionist about my sewing, so I understand you in that. However, I now know that my FMQ may look like the pits when I'm doing it, but when I look at the whole it will look good, or at least acceptable.Rhodahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03890292084678129573noreply@blogger.com