tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post8136635557056935929..comments2024-03-18T12:53:49.439-05:00Comments on That man Quilts?: Parent clocked by young womanLanehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17961668927812199081noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-7750357985003394712011-08-11T07:11:23.616-05:002011-08-11T07:11:23.616-05:00Barbs and insults in jest often are meant to be in...Barbs and insults in jest often are meant to be insulting in a sneaky way. People "back out" by saying "just kidding." It's one thing to trade barbs with another adult you know well and they know you, but a child can have their confidence demolished by such remarks. Especially a girl who doesn't yet understand her emotions and how they change with the month. A good line of defence for the child is to trade barbs, but often the child retreats and begins to take the barbs seriously and loses confidence. Tell me, would you trade barbs with your mentor, or another lady? Keep it light and so silly she can't possibly identify with something negative. Both or you handled this touch situation very well. You probably learned more than Sydney on this one.Paulinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18032916395238804901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-43600739183890287542011-08-10T23:07:30.563-05:002011-08-10T23:07:30.563-05:00You know, when most of us were teenagers, no matte...You know, when most of us were teenagers, no matter how pretty we may have been, all we saw was the flaws. Tell Sydney from me that she is a beautiful girl and her hair and skin are lovely. And dimples are great!lwhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08731797783816953087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-76601862943174792892011-08-10T13:26:06.769-05:002011-08-10T13:26:06.769-05:00Yay Sydney (and Lane!)
You hit the nail on the he...Yay Sydney (and Lane!)<br /><br />You hit the nail on the head - it's one thing for people to trade barbs with each other and be able to take them in the spirit intended, but it's something different altogether when it comes from a parent figure. Some kids are fine with it. But the vast majority cannot handle it and too many of those are unable to express their need. Good for both of you!Lynettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10424861624240818479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-422770130031705442011-08-10T12:50:15.458-05:002011-08-10T12:50:15.458-05:00Good for Sydney for speaking up in a way that got ...Good for Sydney for speaking up in a way that got your attention and good for you for apologizing. My mother used to say the most hateful and insulting things to me and when I would tell her how hurtful it was, she would dismiss it by saying she was "just kidding." Which is an extremely passive way of hurting someone. As an adult, I try to not do that since I remember how bad it felt. Straight talk is always the best.Barb Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05744581949539579718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-79369790274860694752011-08-10T08:52:19.020-05:002011-08-10T08:52:19.020-05:00Horses have a way of doing this to people -they ar...Horses have a way of doing this to people -they are wonderful when it comes to therapeutic breakthroughs even if it is just lightweight like communicating with an adolescent daughter. You don't even have to ride them just brushing or petting them can be so relaxing. Since she had such a positive reaction it would be good if occasionally she can at least visit some stable or farm with gentle bomb proof horses that would like a horse treat or some brushing. Many girls take every word to heart even if they seem callous and unhearing so you may need to change a bit even if it requires a deep breath and swallowing the words at time that come naturally. Sometimes it is better to walk away a minute and think things over before dealing with the irritating situation that might present itself with a daughter. It sounds like progress here if she is communicating rationally what she is feeling which I think is a great step forward with a daughter. They can be great but this age is just bumpy and communicating is really important at this time of their life. mssewcrazyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-87894798177368948622011-08-09T19:25:22.730-05:002011-08-09T19:25:22.730-05:00I am so glad to hear Sydney stood up for gerself. ...I am so glad to hear Sydney stood up for gerself. Hopefully, she will remember, in the future, that she was able to speak her mind and was not put down for it. You are good parents. Raising a teenage daughter should come with sainthood for the parents! Oh the things that hormones can do. I always loved my dear daughter but oh, my, were there times I did not like her very much. She was very dramatic, however, which made it hard. Just keep encouraging Sydney and even if she does get upset, she will know she is loved unconditionally and that is a good thing.Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11926160625275737447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-9359211708658637842011-08-09T17:21:00.664-05:002011-08-09T17:21:00.664-05:00You are a wise man and a good dad.You are a wise man and a good dad.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-60270046820808389882011-08-09T16:37:58.055-05:002011-08-09T16:37:58.055-05:00Remember Lane Hormones play a big part as to wheth...Remember Lane Hormones play a big part as to whether Sydney takes it as play or as offense. This is a TOUGH age, just like you said. But I am glad she stood up for herself in the right way....you guys are some of the best parents a girl could ask for...you seem to do all the right things and when you don't, you do the right thing by making it right again. Way to go!!Coloradoladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16312809532968928183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-56493433654441262182011-08-09T16:30:58.741-05:002011-08-09T16:30:58.741-05:00great postgreat postSpicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14930321182035978355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-72854811185780625212011-08-09T16:27:32.924-05:002011-08-09T16:27:32.924-05:00I love to read posts like this! What a good dad y...I love to read posts like this! What a good dad you are.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16064129372930669591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-58294962224362289042011-08-09T13:26:40.201-05:002011-08-09T13:26:40.201-05:00Lovely post, Lane. I think the vacation had a hug...Lovely post, Lane. I think the vacation had a huge impact on Miss Sydney. You absolutely did the right thing. I had to apologize myself with my young'uns. It never hurts.<br />Have a great day!Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14082295990536140884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-1779071777484172052011-08-09T13:20:20.507-05:002011-08-09T13:20:20.507-05:00Isn't it funny how our sewing blogs end up bei...Isn't it funny how our sewing blogs end up being commentaries on life? *hands over a stitch ripper*Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07717835382469677601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-27069594252374266992011-08-09T11:43:20.625-05:002011-08-09T11:43:20.625-05:00I think the hardest thing to do as a parent is to ...I think the hardest thing to do as a parent is to apologize to our kids, but if we don't, they'll never learn how to do it.<br /><br />I think that's why God doesn't send owners manuals. He lets us figure it out as we go, and we both learn from the process. Those experiences are sometimes very tough, but when you can look back and see the growth it is so enlightening.<br /><br />Take Care,<br />PaulPaulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13624140507953560723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-29936959167299105012011-08-09T11:30:12.205-05:002011-08-09T11:30:12.205-05:00Good for Sydney for standing up for herself in an ...Good for Sydney for standing up for herself in an adult way, good for you for hearing her and apologizing, and good for your relationship with your daughter! <br /><br />It's moments like this that you know everything is going to be alright...Impera Magnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00889488057400766469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5259952795997957550.post-6861932959741386382011-08-09T11:01:28.166-05:002011-08-09T11:01:28.166-05:00Good for her! That confidence will stand her in go...Good for her! That confidence will stand her in good stead if a boyfriend ever tries to control her with the whole 'I insult you, then tell you I was kidding when you get upset, then do it again to chip away at your self-esteem so you don't figure out that I'm a loser and you could do so much better than me' thing.<br />(sorry - bit of a hot button issue with me. I HATE it when I see a lovely young woman with some jerk, and if you talk to her she says that she's 'too (something)' to deserve better).birdmommynoreply@blogger.com