The end...and the beginning

We got the sad news that our dear friend Linda passed away peacefully, early yesterday morning.  We will truly miss her.  I'm not sure I knew how special she was until I saw strangers interact with her at the nursing home.  Everyone who met her was endeared to her and the staff at the home was hit hard by her passing, as are all her friends and family. 

In addition to being our dear friend, she was my quilt show cheering team, there for every ribbon I've won.  And, it is hard to think of going to this year's show without her. 

I'm sorry I was silent last week.  I know many of you were following our story closely.  But, last week was hard.  For us, it felt like the week between a death and the funeral.  Linda passed for us over a week ago, when we realized she would not wake again.  But, her body continued for another 9 days.  We felt like part of a very small group of people sharing the same experience who could not fully rejoin reality.  We couldn't move forward.  We couldn't move back. 

Today, we can move forward and rejoin the greater community around us (but a review of the news this morning makes me want to crawl back into a hole, to tell the truth.)

Coincidentally, I finished a project yesterday.  Linda gave me many unfinished projects.  Many. 

No.  Really.  Many.

But, she only asked me to finish one.  And, that was this one.  It's an afghan she started in 2003.  She had a third of the granny squares made.  And, the rest of the yarn and the pattern got left at her apartment and donated. The blocks had an unusual outer edge that I couldn't reproduce without the pattern and she couldn't remember, so I had to take that off the squares she had made and add something different. 

The border was my idea.  The focus yarn is a multi color called Aspen by Red Heart.  I found it during a lunch search one day.  And, I added a blue and green pulled from that and an off white.  Linda made the centers of the brown squares.

I finished it the day she passed away.  Rob made the point that she couldn't leave until I had finished that afghan. 

But, that's not true.  All it really means is I'll never be able to get rid of it.  Ever. 


Stuck with it forever.

Kidding.  Sort of.

Sydney has done well with all that has happened.  She has followed our lead.  And, when we told funny stories at the dinner table, she laughed with us.  And, when we were sad, she was sad.  And, when it was time to grieve, she grieved.  And, when it was over, like us, she was relieved.  I'm reminded of something I read or that someone said when she came to live here.  Your children are learning from you, even when you don't mean to be teaching.  Make sure the lessons they learn are all lessons you'd want to teach. 

I wanted to say thank you from me and my family.  You have all been a great source of encouragement for us all.    You've supported me and encouraged me through a very difficult time.  And, now, life begins again and I'm anxious to see what comes next and to continue to share my personal experiences here, on the blog. 

Be well and have a great Monday!!  Lane


Anonymous said...

Well the afghan is finished and a wonderful memory of a good friend. It is beautiful.

Dot said...

Oh, Lane,
Linda is a lovely person as is her (and your afghan). I feel I knew her a bit, courtesy of your blog, and I will miss her. Again, hugs and love to you and your family.

You feel like family. I guess like Sydney, I'm absorbing life lessons from your blog. Thank you so much for sharing. And for still wishing us a great Monday.

Patricia (POdesigns) said...

So sorry for your loss, hope the afghan will give you fond memories of your friend.

Anonymous said...

So sorry for the loss of a dear friend. You have not lost her, she is still with you. Not only in thread, support and the afghan. Thank you for sharing with us. Hug Rob and Sydney from your blog followers. lum

Anonymous said...

You are fortunate to have had the wonderful friendship with Linda. She will be with you always in yo ur memories. Thank you for sharing.

Marei said...

I have been checking the blog every day as I knew it would soon be "time" for Linda to pass over to the other side. What a beautiful tribute to your friend. What wonderful friends you were. You'll have years of good memories....and that afghan...to remember her by. May she rest in peace. May you, Rob and Sydney find comfort in the fact that you all loved her, and showed her your love, every way possible.

jane said...

the afghan is lovely. But let me say one thing. I have had family members visit me long after they passed away. The end is not the end for them. They must go on to someplace special.

The Joyful Quilter said...

Farewell, Linda. Sending quilty hugs for you and Rob.

Timothy Wright said...

You were a dear and loving friend to her--

Becky said...

Love you bunches!