Bummer

I'm having withdrawals today. 

Rob washed my iphone yesterday.  Today, we're arguing about whose fault it was.

I say it was mine because I put my shorts on an active pile of laundry, on washday, with the phone in the pocket. 

Rob says it's his because he didn't check my pockets.

I say that if I put it in the laundry, I'm responsible for the pockets.  If he picks it up from somewhere else and decides to wash it, he's on his own.

I wonder how many couples argue this from the other way around?  Instead of "it's my fault", they argue "it's your fault". 

But, before you get all sappy about what a sweet couple we are, if I'd said anything yesterday, I'd have said it was his fault.  But, I kept my big ole' damn mouth shut and as the day progressed, I remember that I'd tried to be all helpful and put my dirty clothes in the laundry pile instead of just dropping them on the floor...not that I leave clothes on the floor, but it is a useful step on the way to the laundry pile.

This whole not rushing to blame is new for me.  There was a time when I would not have had the confidence to accept that I made a mistake and would have tried to find someone to blame, and if I had any trouble pinning it on them, I'd have picked a fight to make them look like the smaller person. 

As Rob.  He knows. 

Maybe it's just because I'm older.  Maybe it's because I'm finally letting myself off the hook for not being perfect.  I'm more confident now and I can accept responsibility and I've learned that stuff happens, no matter how careful you are.  I keep saying, it's not what you do.  It's what you do after that counts.

Phones are Rob's thing, so he's tasked with replacing it as quickly and at the lowest cost possible.  Not because he's responsible.  Because phones are his thing to take care of. 

That's nice.  He doesn't worry about cooking and he doesn't have to scrub the mildew off the shower.  He doesn't take my car in for maintenance and the household banking and billpaying falls to me.  He has his "jobs" too.  Plus, he's responsible for anything having to do with customer service.  That is NOT my forte.  He's so good at it that we get a ton of stuff for free.

But even his skills were not up to a free iphone. 

On the quilting front, I took the hexie project apart and started again.  I'm like that.  Oh, well.  And, the two spool has been set up and I've been doing a little bit of leader and ender work with it, just to work out the kinks.  Tension, tension, tension.  The machine's tension is making me tense.

Be well.  Take care of one another.  It's the beginning of a new week and for us, a new season.  We've left the cool temps of spring and have been dropped in the humid heat of summer.